You Can

CAN'T

We use this word in our everyday language without even noticing.  We hear this word in our daily conversations without so much as a passing thought.  I hear my children say I can't, I can't, I can't.  My response is how do you know.

When we use Can't we immediately limit ourselves, we cut off our options and our choices.  How do you know what is possible, what you are capable of?  The answer you really don't.  We have so many talents and skills that are untapped.  We've often been conditioned to hear you can't do this, or you're not good at that, that what you want to accomplish can't be done.  Your not good at math, you 're not athletic, you can't spell, you'll never be fit. Nonsense!

When we use the word Can't we are stopped.  Instead, just eliminate the word from your vocabulary or use it to your advantage.  I can't fail, I can't be stopped from my goal.

Keeping an open mind is important and all of man's achievements began with thinking that something was possible, that it could be done.  So, let that be the case with us.  Remove the negative Can't from our daily language.  When someone tells us it can't be done, simply smile and go about your business. Find someone that supports you and your dreams and don't limit yourself.

For many of us it's hard to overcome limiting thoughts and beliefs when we've been verbally abused with a stream of cant's.  Start with choosing to eliminate the word from you vocabulary no matter when you are starting from today.

Your present situation has no bearing on what you can do and accomplish. Yes, you can be healthy, wealthy, find your true love, or achieve whatever dream you have.

Simply removing one little letter can make all the difference.   I Can't becomes I CAN.  Some find it hard to make the leap from I can't to I can, that's OK.  Without moving to I can, we can just start by eliminating I can't.

We can do that right.

All the Best,

Tom Kaufmann
Coach K
CoachKaufmann.com

Young Folk Principles

The Youngster Good Life

1. Don't play house in high school and college.   Translation. Don't become involved in serious relationships where you become "married" at a young age.  The intense involvement with one person at such a young age limits and stunts your other formative life experiences. 
2. Don't do what you can undo.   Think pregnancy, tattoos, drunk driving, posting something dumb on social media, things that involve permanence.  You can undo being pregnant, a tattoo that looks cool at 18 become foolish when you're 30,  that underage drinking fine stays on your record for a long time.  A piercing, goofy haircut, or wild clothes can easily be undone.  You can remove an earring, or nose piercing, your hair will grow back but a baby is yours forever. 
3. Travel.  Before settling down with a career or partner, get out and see the world.  Once you start working and have responsibilities beyond yourself,  experience different cultures and varying ideas.  Understanding other ways of life, expands our own capabilities. 
4. Focus on lifestyle not material possessions.  The way you live is more important than what you have.  So many of us, particularly Americans,  choose materialism and consumerism which forces us to work at unfulfilling jobs.  When we limit our appetites, we have more freedom and more choice to follow our passion. 
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Tommy - A Love Story

Tommy

I met a wonderful woman while walking our dog Shay in the park the other day.  We were coming up the road, and a woman was standing next to her dog that was just sitting there watching the birds. 

Getting closer, I thought she was a dog trainer working on the sit command.   Our beautiful little Cavalier, Shay, could use a little training. We said hello and I asked about why her dog was just sitting there, she answered that since she was 14 years old she could do what she wanted.  I smiled in agreement. 

She went on to tell me that the lab/pit mix was named after her husband Tom.  I said you must really like your husband and she responded Tommy was named in honor of his passing 14 years ago (insert foot in mouth here). 

Tommy was a rescue dog that helped this nice woman through her grief and became a companion to replace the love of her life.  She went on to tell me how Tommy was now not in the best health, but it was clear from their long friendship....

that both of them had been rescued. 

With Love,

Tom Kaufmann

Coach K

CoachKaufmann.com

Do What You Love, Love What You Do

Do What You Love

We've all heard the expression to do what you love, but how about a little reality.  How do you do what you love when you have rent, mortgage, car, and cell phone bills.  You need a job in the real world that may not be too meaningful for you but pays the bills. 

But is there another way. 

Can you do what you truly love and meet your responsibilities.  Yes, but the road can be challenging. 

What's the point of taking a job that pays well if it makes you miserable or worse sick.  Better to be happy and enjoy what you do and forgo the material goodies.  Easier said than done I know.  Something magical happens when you do what you enjoy doing, somehow the money finds you.  Maybe it's the passion and joy that shine in your daily work which brings top performance and the required perseverance when the inevitable setbacks occur.  

Society is setup for conformity.  Follow along do what everyone else does.  Why not cut a new path and find a new frontier instead.  You are not alone, many others have chosen to live deliberately and pursue their passion. 

Our time on this earth is finite why not spending doing what you really love.

With Love,

Tom Kaufmann

Coach K

CoachKaufmann.com