When the new year rolls around it's always helpful to express a little gratitude for all the wonderful things in our lives. Here are a few ideas to help make 2011 and beyond a HAPPY new year
1. Do what you love no matter what. Detach from the outcome and do what you love. My friend Anthony is a contactor but his real passion is art. He is a terrific painter and despite having a busy schedule makes time to follow his passion which is paint. Make sure you find time in your life to do what you have a passion for and something that you enjoy. What's the point of having money and material goodies if what your doing is making you and everyone around you miserable. Make the time to do what you love, your whole sense of well being will improve.
2. Practice a little more love and kindness with everyone you meet especially your family that knows all too well how to push your buttons. We often find it easier to be nice to strangers than our loved ones since we are all good at carrying around past hurts and grudges. Lighten up and let it all go. Forgiveness is a wonderful elixir. And don't be so hard on YOURSELF.
3. Give up the need to always be right. When we give up the notion of always being right and always having to win the argument we bring more peace into our lives. Susbstitue the attitude of always being right with the idea of always being kind. Our Egos our always telling us how important it is to be right as if being right means we are better than the other person. When we surrender the idea of always being right, we become more at ease with ourselves and the world around us.
4. Listen more. Talk less. We all want to be heard but most of us love to talk. Most of listen halfheartedly, just waiting for our turn to talk to express our opinion. Try being an understanding listener, just hear the person out let them express themselves. Just listen don't judge. When we listen to someone we're really acknowledging and validating them.
5. Stop judging everyone and everything. Yes, this is a hard one, it seems we've been conditioned to judge everything through our own narrow viewpoint or to be critical. How often to we form a complete opinion of someone when we really don't even know them. When we give up the need to judge others, we in turn stop judging ourselves which allows us to live more peacefully and without the need to put ourselves and others down.
6. Turn down the DRAMA. Avoid conflict and keep things in perspective. While it sometimes seems hard to avoid, living a more peaceful and happy life means eliminating the unecessary conflict and drama that often finds us on a daily basis. When we give up our need to be right and win every argument and disagreement, the conflict and drama in our lives diminishes and our happiness flourishes. How do we reduce conflict? We simply choose not to respond with anger, hatred, or meaness. Remember, it takes two to argue and fight. We don't have to agree but that doesn't mean we have to fight either.
7. Surrender. Giving up the need to be right and to win is liberating. When we live from our passion and creativity we express and share our talents without the need for validation or approval. We do it because we love it, because it brings us joy. Do the thing and it will give you power.
Here's to a wonderful 2011.
Continued success and all the best,
Much Love,
Tom Kaufmann
Coach K
tkaufmanncoaching.com
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