How much of our time is spent judging others and ourselves. What a waste of energy! When we spend our time being critical of ourselves and others, we sap our valuable time and energy that can be used for more productive means.
All we have is a result. Who is to say whether it is good or bad? And from what perspective. A C grade on a test may be terrific for the student that struggles with the subject and has invested time and energy in achieving the result. Meanwhile, an A may be a disappointment for another that cheated to obtain the result.
Giving up the need to judge or the need to be right is a very hard thing to do, especially since we have been doing it all our lives. And since we have been judged by our parents, teachers, coworkers, friends, and peers this seems like normal behavior. But when we let the urge to judge go, we become lighter, less defensive, less critical. In many ways, we have been born with an internal scoreboard and have this internal need to keep score. Nonsense. Instead of judging and having our way, perhaps we should try understanding, more compassion.
When we let go of having to win, we free up the space to simply be.
Think of it from your energy levels. When we are judgmental and critical we lower both our energy level and the person we are criticizing. Why, when we can replace it with the higher level of understanding and compassion, and when we find those hard to apply at times we can simply just remain silent.
Giving up these limiting lower energies frees us up to move to higher energy states, creates space for us to live to our utmost potential.
Let it go and watch it grow.
With Love,
Tom Kaufmann
Coach K
tkaufmanncoaching.com
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